I have deep respect for @vyana.novus and the creativity, structure, and openness with which she navigates life, heals from trauma, and embraces the newness of motherhood. (Also, The Redefining Success Journal that she created is a beautiful gift for the holidays!)
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Lately I’ve been practicing setting boundaries without apologizing for them and I have to say, although it’s uncomfortable at first, I am really loving it. Rather than saying things like, “I’m sorry I’m not available.” I’ve just been saying, “I’m not available.” It seems harsh at first, but really, it’s not. I’m not being rude or nasty for saying a direct & clear no, nor am I being aggressive or angry. I think being this direct is just bumping into another layer of the ‘be a good, nice, quiet girl’ conditioning.
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Why do I feel the need to apologize for saying no? Why do I feel the need to apologize for speaking my boundaries when they are fundamentally in place to protect my mental, physical, and emotional health? I think it’s because there’s a cultural story that says “women who speak up with clarity & directness are bitches/mean/wrong/aggressive/bad/etc.” But no, I’m not buying into that shit anymore. So I’ve been trying out not apologizing for the things I say & feel to preserve & protect my own energy. I’ve been trying to speak what’s true for me with grace & integrity, without trying to accommodate everyone else’s reactions.
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It’s edgy, for sure. But it feels like a really profound opportunity to stand deeper in my life.
And when it’s applicable, I’ve been really enjoying replacing an unnecessary apology with gratitude. Rather than “I’m sorry I’m not available,” I try “I’m not available. Thanks for understanding.” What a shift!
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Boundaries…it’s a never ending, forever humbling journey, right?
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#healingismorethanastory #mentalhealthmatters #noapologiesnecessary #youareworthyofyourboundaries
Isn’t it so true? Some days we do our best, and we still receive helpful (or maybe not so helpful) feedback that our impact was not what we intended. This can be so hard to hear. 😳🤯😔😖😫🥺🥵 But then we have the choice: Do I dwell in the feelings of shame or embarrassment or regret, or do I love myself even more - flaws and all? This question is followed in short order by the next: Do I continue to dwell on the past, or do I move forward to change my behavior, actions, reactions, or impact? But the second question follows the first. Loving acceptance and radical self-compassion are the entry point to positive change, be it related to a character trait, an addiction, a habit, or a relationship. Seeing ourselves in our flawed glory and accepting who we are at this stage in our journey... this is the true key to growth. You are brilliant, beautiful, and strong. And you can shift and grow too. 💥💪🏽🥰
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Robert Holden
#radicalselflove #selflove #selfcompassion #selfacceptance #imperfect #deserving #embodiedhealing #dramatherapy #addictionrecovery #anxietyrelief #bodypositive #bodypositivity
Because after a long day working at 3 different sites (and 4 levels of care) with individuals in recovery from eating disorders, all I want is to see beautiful bright colors and people supporting each other. More specifically, I want to be surrounded by visions of women healing and supporting each other, making space for their intersectionality, aware of their positions of power and privilege, addressing trauma as well as shared pain, and finding self love and self compassion. That’s all.
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Shared Sun • 12”x12” acrylic on wood panel .
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#traumarecovery #embodiedhealing #eatingdisorderrecovery #bodypositive #anxietyrelief #womensupportingwomen #metoo #dramatherapy #narrativetherapy #grouptherapy #groupdynamics
This. For anyone who is confused about #dramatherapy, THIS is in fact what drama therapy can do. Reply All’s podcast episode #129 doesn’t explicitly describe drama therapy as led by a drama therapist, but the goals and outcomes described in this piece are all there. (Story first shared on @thenodshow episode “Saving Grace”)
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Drama therapy utilizes the same power of dramatic play, the same narrative restorying to facilitate healing from traumatic loss, and the same transformation found from imaginary projective techniques. Of course, Autumn, the amazing women interviewed in the piece, navigates her traumatic loss alone, replacing the structure a #dramatherapist could have provided with the structure/container of a computer game.
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I encourage anyone interested in #creativeartstherapy, #playtherapy, and #narrativetherapy to listen to this podcast episode! It’s powerful and beautiful. Thank you @replyall, @thenodshow, and @gimletmedia for allowing us to witness this transformational story.
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If you are looking for a drama therapist to work with in Los Angeles, please DM me. Phone consultations are always complimentary, and I’d love to see if we’d be the right fit. 📞📱:646-272-4971
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#embodiedhealing #traumarecovery #traumainformed #therapy #replyallpodcast #thenodpodcast
